Pondering: Impact of infatuation on friendship

Well... I actually wrote this one a long time ago. It's been sitting in a word document on my desktop for over a month.... It wasn't written with anyone specific in mind - so don't try to find parallels there anywhere. It's just a thought that I had - after observing, not only my relationships but also those of others. If you decide to get offended or hurt nonetheless, you gotta let me know! Otherwise, I may never know and it will stew unresolved blowing into something big. I prefer offending people when it is my intention. Not without. And do comment on your experiences ....

"One of the greatest mysteries of life has been how your friends, even best friends, simply abandon their friendships for the sake of their relationships with men.

It seems strange that the two cannot coincide.

It often takes years (possibly an exaggeration) to re-establish the friendship that has withered under the strain of being ignored, placed last and otherwise screwed over for the sake of the boyfriend.

But not a single of my friendships (a gross exaggeration) has managed to last for the whole trajectory between singledom (paaarty!), inception of a relationship, dating, serious dating, living together and seriously living happily ever after (or not).

Is it just the bitter left behind single side of me that is complaining?

But it just seems so ... hurtful... and negligent...

Why is it so hard to reconcile the two?? Surely keeping a boyfriend is not a 24/7 engagement? Or is it? Someone... explain ... please? "